Why You Want Potential Clients to Either Love You, or Can’t Stand You

After the last article I shared with my community of holistic health practitioners, I got the largest number of people decide to not get emails from me anymore.  For the first time, I was excited.

See, I shared something personal that I did – I had meditated for 21 days in an Inner Awakening program & shared about receiving energy initiations.  And how some people experienced physical levitation. I had people who decided not to get emails from me anymore. One person sent me a note about how he believed in Jesus, and suggested I be careful with what I say. (BTW, interestingly enough, some of my favorite clients are ie, Christian and don’t have a problem with what I believe).

See, I used to think there was a way to please everyone you wanted to help.  I used to take things personally in my other business when I saw people decide not to get emails from me. I would feel rejected, and wonder what I did wrong. My mentors would teach that it was a good thing when people decide they don’t want to get your emails.  But I certainly didn’t feel that way before.

But after the article I wrote the other week & saw people not resonate with it, I was actually happy.  Because the people who decided to stay in my community resonate more with what I teach & with who I am.  They’re the ones who will most likely want to learn from me.  Holistic health practitioners who don’t appreciate that everyone has their own spiritual path and respect hearing others express their feelings about it….they’re not the right match for me to work with.

Same for you.  The people who resonate with who you are (or what your practice stands for) are more likely to become your patients or clients.  What happens when you have potential clients love you is that they will rave about you & really want your help.  Or, they will refer people to you).

So don’t be scared people might not like you.  Running a successful practice is not about pleasing everyone.  It’s about helping the people who most need you & resonate with you.

How can you share more about yourself or the values of your practice, so that the people who resonate with you seek you out?  When you keep that in mind as you run your practice, you won’t be concerned about marketing your practice.  Because you won’t be concerned about being rejected. Or what others think about you. Every step of getting the word out about your practice is one step closer to others getting holistic healthcare that you offer.

Is 2016 your year? Are you tired of it being slow in your practice? Or maybe you are busy, but you can’t imagine this continuing to go on without pulling your hair out. It’s not too late to double your practice this year. Don’t miss the final encore of The Double Factor: Double (even Triple!) Your Practice the Introverted Way in 2016“.


  1. Jason Tarter on January 26, 2013 at 1:26 am

    Great post, please add me to your list. I agree, i send out newsletters and i think to myself, when people opt out of my emails, that they wouldn’t have been a great customer anyways, so why share my energy with them any longer!! They actually did me a favour.

    • Chen Yen on January 29, 2013 at 12:31 am

      Hi Jason, happy to keep you in the loop with strategies that can help you get more than enough clients in your practice, including complimentary access to our More than Enough Clients eNewsletter (for holistic practitioners ONLY). Done…have included you in our community 🙂

      For those of you who would like access to the More than Enough Clients eNewsletter, enter your name & email here:

      (you can also read a fun article about a lesson on charging what you’re worth on that page)

  2. Caroline Ford on January 21, 2013 at 1:29 am

    That’s most inspirational. I’ll carry that with me -thanks for your courage.

  3. Greg.D. on January 20, 2013 at 6:27 pm

    Acupuncture magazine article said that we need to sacrifice making money and a living for the art of practicing Oriental medicine. ” like a starving artist for the sake of growing the art of Oriental medicine.” Really are they kidding me..I spent thousands of dollars for my Ed. & yes I want to help patients, but I cannot do it by not paying myself first. Like the saying you cannot help others if you don’t help yourself first. No support from other Dr’s, we practice on our own acupuncturists treating patients with rare diseases not even the Mayo clinic know how to treat but they know acupuncture helps the patients. It’s more than frustrating! Peace to you, Chen. -Greg.D.

    • Chen Yen on January 29, 2013 at 12:43 am

      Wow, that’s amazing that the acupuncture magazine article said that. It IS possible to have both. Money is energy, and we can make money based on the value we provide for the world. By honoring ourselves & our work through the exchange of money, patients are more committed to themselves and their health also.

      I’m glad that you have the mindset of having both. The more money we make, the more we can help more people with our resources. With the right mindset, all you need to know is step-by-step how to market your acupuncture practice so you’re found by the people who are committed to their health, appreciate what you offer, and pay you what you’re worth.

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