Do Patients/Clients Push Your Boundaries?

Every half year, I reflect on milestones I’ve made and what else is ahead.  Not everyone has goals of doubling their practice, but for me, I love the challenge of it and thinking big. It’s also about doubling my impact on others around me (and naturally the income follows).

I’ve been thinking about what has made the biggest difference with mynaturopaths, acupuncturists, chiropractors, naturopaths, massage therapists, health coaches, and energy/spiritual healers make big leaps in their practices quickly.  It’s something that’s made a big difference doubling the businesses I’ve grown, and is something that I teach holistic practitioners who work with me. Would you like to know what it is?

It’s to break patterns that may seem insignificant.  The patterns may not at first glance even seem to be something that looks related to your practice. For example, it may be that you make a commitment and then try to get out of your commitment (ie, make a commitment for an appointment but cancel last minute for a Dr’s visit). It shows up as you doing it once. Then you do it again because you’ve done it before.

Before you know it, it’s become a pattern. It has snuck up on you and you aren’t even consciously aware of the energetic consequences. We project ourselves onto others, and often reflect back what’s true in ourselves. If that were true—being out of integrity with your commitments–how else is it showing up in your life or in your practice? Is it showing up in your patients/clients doing the                                                         same to you?

This happened to me —I started to notice a pattern of people pushing the boundaries of my time.  So I looked at where I was pushing boundaries of other people’s time and was finding situations where I was doing that to others, including that of my mentors.  I would look for exceptions, or other ways of pushing boundaries.  When I tightened up those boundaries, I saw fewer people try to push my boundaries.  I was also more able to hold my own boundary.

One of the things that I’m working on right now is breaking the pattern of having my days fully booked back to back.  Another thing is going on trips like I am this week and coming and going practically on the day the conference ends.  This time, I’m taking the time to relax a day before and a day after.  Just as our own patterns may not seem like a big deal to others, it is a big deal to ourselves.  What I shared with you may not seem like a lot to you, but it is for me.  I tend to take long trips to visit family overseas, or go on spiritual retreats.  But taking time off in between is not a habit of mine.

What is one pattern you’re seeing that when you break it, you just know it can make a significant impact on yourself, and translate to benefiting your  practice?                                                                            

Is it time to break your pattern of reaching a ceiling in your practice? If you’re feeling it is time and you are ready, apply for a Double My Practice” Strategy Session where I will provide insight on what I see will give you the biggest leap in your practice. Doubling your practice doesn’t mean double the work. What it does mean is doubling your reach to the people you’re meant to help.

Comment below on what the pattern you want to break is, or on any ah-has you had from reading this article. To a significant leap in your practice this second half of the year!


  1. Mindy on July 9, 2013 at 1:51 am

    I need to break the pattern of not charging enough, not being comfortable telling clients my fee has gone up!

    • Chen Yen on July 21, 2013 at 2:47 pm

      Mindy, that’s a common challenge for many health coaches and holistic practitioners. You are not alone! Something that can help if you’re really stuck with this is that even if you know it’s not as big of an increase as you should be asking, start asking more each time (to an amount where you’re not comfortable, but not so uncomfortable that you stutter). That way, you are on your way to charging what you’re worth.

      Remember–your biggest growth and what you want is just outside your comfort zone. And when you do it once, it won’t be scary the next time. Go for it and keep us posted.

  2. jenetta on July 7, 2013 at 12:58 pm

    i need to lose the pattern of being late and not giving myself enough time to get through traffic etc to get to my clients. i need to also not let clients take advantage of my time. i give too many small freebies. come to think of it i am much too generous on the whole and people take advantage of that and that needs to change also.

    • Chen Yen on July 7, 2013 at 3:22 pm

      Hi Jenetta, good for you for declaring the patterns you plan to break! Commitment and declaring it to others is a powerful first step, because now we all know about it. 🙂 I’ve had those patterns myself too, and can relate (ie: being late and giving so much without opening up the door to receive). To you—opening the door to receiving more also!

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